Charisma-Maxxing Protocol
How to Max Out Your Aura and Become a Social Magnet
The Tactician's guide to Charisma-Maxxing
Guys (and girls), we are in a crisis. A charisma crisis. We live in a world that deliberately disincentivizes social magnetism. We have collectively lost our ability to relate to others. To collaborate, to lead, to make change.
It doesn’t matter how skilled you are, without charisma you will never make it to the top. Here’s the good news: charisma is a skill. Its something you can acquire with deliberate practice, devotion, and consistency. Hence why I put together the Charisma-Maxxing Protocol.
What is Charisma?
Charisma is a mix of confidence, presence, emotional intelligence, and the ability to communicate in a way that captivates people.
Its not just charm, its aura. Its the ability to eminate the right vibes at the right time. To command attention. This is the one true trait of leaders. Without it, nobody would listen to them, no matter how noble their cause.
Charisma is the one true meta-skill. It is an amplifier to all your other qualities.
You Need to be Charisma Maxxing
COVID collectively obliterated our ability to charisma max. 2+ years of minimal social interaction atrophied our interpersonal skillset. Most people have never recovered. Society has adapted this new normal. You can get everything you need without ever leaving your house
- You work from home
- You date from home (tinder)
- You shop from home (Amazon)
- You get groceries from home (Postmates)
- You socialize from home (Instagram)
- You have experiences from home (TV)
These scratch your itch enough to not feel the urge to leave the house, but not enough to actually meet your needs
Its up to YOU to rebuild these skills. Interpersonal skills will be the biggest differentiator in our soon-to-be-AI dominated society.
Nobody expects to bench 3 plates if they never go to the gym, so why do you expect to have elite charisma if you never practice?
Charisma Starts from Within
Break the Bad Programming
Tangible skills aside, charisma comes down to feeling confident in who you are, regardless of what others think. Its less about tangibles and more about vibes. Good vibes are magnetic.
Before you start training your charisma, you need to remove the things blocking your natural charismatic potential:
- Social anxiety
- Shame
- Guilt
- Low self-esteem
Nothing destroys aura like shame or guilt. These are the lowest vibrational frequencies by far. They breed wounded puppy syndrome. Work on your problems, but don't be afraid to chad ram your way through it. You do this by building AGENCY
Start by removing all actions that make you hate yourself. Stop going against your word. Stop being a flake. Stop watching porn. Stop staying up until 2AM watching TikTok. Stop being spineless. Ditch all guilt from past grievances and cut out all guilt-inducing activities
How do you expect other people to like you if you don't even like yourself?
Create a Character: Starting From Scratch
You could wake up tomorrow, decide to be an entirely different person, and maybe 7 out of the 7.4 billion people on this world would even notice (close friends & family).
You have started a new game, a new character with new attributes. Ready Player One. You are 100% going to fail your first few missions. There will be awkward silences, jokes that don't land, rejection and embarassment,
But THATS THE POINT. THATS HOW YOU LEARN. By failing, learning from their experience, coming up with a gameplan for next time, then getting back out there.
Nobody Cares About You (And Thats a Good Thing)
Nobody cares about you as much as you do. Can you remember the last time someone else made a fool of themselves? Probably not. But I bet you remember that one time you told the waiter "you too" after he said "enjoy your meal".
Take the world seriously. Take yourself lightly
Fixed vs Growth Mindset
The biggest barrier to charisma isn't lack of social skills - it's how you think about social skills.
There are two types of people in this world:
Fixed Mindset – Sees themselves as limited; avoids challenges, fears failure, and resists change.
Growth Mindset – Sees themselves as evolving; embraces challenges, learns from failure, and seeks improvement.
Most people live their whole lives calling themselves "shy" or "introverted" when they just never gave themselves a chance to prove themselves otherwise. They use these labels as shields to avoid putting themselves out there.
They don’t socialize because they’re bad at socializing, they’re bad at socializing because they don’t socialize. One big self-defeating cycle.
Now lets get tactical…
Tactical Steps to Improving your Charisma:
Below are actionable ways you can become a magnetic, energetic, and charismatic individual. Pick a few and gamify the process. Go on “charisma side quests” every day.
Every action you take is a vote for the person you want to be