Everywhere I go I see the same depressing pattern: grown men living like overgrown children. They’re operating at MAYBE 10% of their potential. They’re underskilled, dependent, and entirely unremarkable. Its like they’re waiting for permission to be great (or just gave up entirely)
Every once and a while I find somebody who I click with. They inspire me, I inspire them, we resonate. They are REMARKABLE, memorable even. Iron sharpens iron, but we live in a world of clay (ie not sharp).
I can’t blame these people. We’re living through the most systematic emasculation campaign in human history. We’re being spiritually (and literally) castrated. School is a decade of learned helplessness conditioning. College is a 4 year humiliation ritual designed to strip away your agency.
What I want (and what we should all want) is not just for me to be remarkable, but for others to be remarkable as well. I want to surround myself with high agency, unique individuals. People that have cultivated their edge and provide value.
The Remarkability Stack:
Physical foundation → Mental clarity and confidence
Critical thinking → Better decision-making in all areas
Communication → Ability to influence and lead
Technical skill → Practical value creation
Leadership → Ability to build and guide teams
Pillar 1: Competency
The first step to remark-ability is competency. Get good at getting good at things. Build a strong foundation of strength, critical thinking, and literacy. Look at what everybody else is doing and do the opposite.
Learn how to learn. Question everything. Ask “why?” five times for every claim. Say “I don’t know instead of bullshitting. Debate with yourself daily. Elminate junk media. Ponder daily.
Become a physical specimen. Physical strength breeds mental strength, and strength is never a weakness. Increasing physical output improves capacity for mental output
Get Literate. Learn how to speak good. Articulate communication is the almighty amplifier. Read more, study rhetoric, practice writing daily, expand vocabulary by combining all of the above. Combine this with non-verbal authority and body language.
Mental Tests:
Can you explain your positions clearly?
How quickly do you learn new concepts?
What books have changed your thinking recently?
Social Tests:
Do people seek your opinions?
Can you influence outcomes in group settings?
Are you building or following?
Pillar 2: Career Capital Building
The Competence Hierarchy Nobody wants to hear your opinions on life when you can't prove basic competence. You need undeniable results before you earn the right to be heard.
The Grind Phase:
Pick one measurable skill
Become undeniably good at it
Generate quantifiable results
Document everything
Stack wins, build a memorable elevator pitch, become “that guy” for one thing:
Business: Revenue, clients served, team built
Fitness: Lifting numbers, body composition, athletic performance
Creative: Audience size, engagement, projects completed
Technical: Certifications, projects shipped, problems solved
Talk is cheap. Ideas are cheaper. PROVE YOUR WORTH. This is your foot in the door.
Pillar 3: Become rememorable
Most people will forget you existed 10 minutes after meeting you. Do something about this with the Value-First Approach
The Value-First Approach:
Enter every conversation asking: "How can I provide value?"
Share actionable insights, not opinions
Connect people who should know each other
Follow through on commitments religiously
Be the guy who makes things happen
90% of people are just waiting for their turn to talk. We’re all dulled down from the thousands of voices we hear on social media daily, cut through the noise by mastering rhetoric and verbal dominance
Verbal Dominance Protocol:
Speak with conviction (no uncertainty)
Use precise language over vague generalities
Tell stories that illustrate principles
Ask questions that make people think
Listen more than you speak (when you speak, make it count)
Pillar 4: Shift your Mindset from Self to Service
Don't ask: "What do I want for myself?" Ask: "What do I want for the world?"
Find your unique gift and use it to change the world around you. This ironically is the best thing you can do for yourself. Living for ones-self is self-limiting. Doing for others pushes you beyond your limits. We’re tribal creatures.
Think Like Your Ancestors
How would this challenge have been handled 10,000 years ago? Our ancestors didn't have the luxury of being mediocre. They were either remarkable or dead. Ancient wisdom for modern problems
Physical strength as a non-negotiable
Tribal bonds = survival
Leadership is earned through competence
Every day is a test
Just stop being a soyjack. Do hard things. Think for yourself. Become REMARKABLE and more importantly competent. You need it for yourself and the world needs it from you. Namaste
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